But I accepted and started to worry about what I was going to wear. I said that openly and famously gay Matt Bomer who is publicly married to his partner seemed a weird idea for the role of the very straight BDSM freako Christian Grey in the movie adaptation of Fifty Shades of Grey. The rush to embrace and console every gay man who comes out is infantilizing and condescending—but it's a script written and promoted by GLAAD and reinforced by a sanctimonious establishment of gay men that rewards those who play by the rules—and punishes those who don't. And you are expected to play this role just because of your sexuality. If you are a gay man who is not The Gay Man as Magical Elf, then you run the risk of being ostracized by the elite gay community. As a writer, I believe in free speech no matter what.
Jason Collins is the future.
Male Scientist Claims Lesbianism Evolved Because Men Like It. Gay Community Disagrees
I might come off that way because I think life is essentially hard and that scalding humor and rallying against its absurdities is the path on which to move through the world—and sometimes that means making fun of myself or lashing out at media targets in a way that might make it look to a dumbass that I Hate Bret. George Stephanopoulos interviewed him so tenderly, it was as if he was talking to a six-year-old boy. This is a problem: I apologized to the agent for any embarrassment this might have caused her and tweeted about the news. But the over-protectiveness and the avalanche of acceptance is also for some gay men a kind of condescension.
When a community prides itself on its differences and uniqueness and bans the gay man because of the way the gay man expresses himself—then a corporate PC fascism has been put into play that needs to be seriously reconsidered by the LGBT community. The inclusion and promotion of this common gay man by the Gatekeepers of Politically Correct Gayness would be something shattering. It is a shame that Bret appears to be trying to overshadow the high-profile allies including Betty White, Chris Evans, Beth Ditto, Kelly Rowland, and so many others who used our event to show their support for LGBT people and joined us in advocating for equality in the Boy Scouts of America, marriage, and across the country. The real shame is that most gay men—who are every bit as hilariously filthy and raunchy and un-PC as their straight male counterparts—have to somehow tow the GLAAD party line in public or else be criticized. For all the good it has done, many gays have seen it as a group that could be almost fascistically politically correct and in confused ways: The agency had bought a table, and she asked me to be her date. Now, I could be totally wrong about this as well.